Survivor Stories

Marlene was first involved with RISE when she fled her abusive boyfriend and father of her child.   He had been extremely physically abusive toward her in the past and was convicted for one incident.  Marlene worked with the shelter and advocacy services for the next several months to find safe housing, childcare for her daughter, and general support and services to start her life as a single mother in a new location.  She went to school and started a new career.  In the meantime, her ex-boyfriend was paroled and threatened to come back into her life, as her Orders of Protection and custody had expired.  Marlene got back in touch with RISE advocacy services for assistance in getting her case into court locally.  By advocating for the client with her attorney, the Law Guardian, Family Court and Child Protective Services, RISE was able to help her put on the best case in court and secure a new Order of Protection and sole custody of her daughter.  Additionally, Marlene feels safer than she has in the past, because she has developed a strong safety plan and support network.

Kim was first referred to the agency by Child Protective Services due to ongoing abuse she was experiencing from her boyfriend in the presence of her new baby. She was resistant to receiving advocacy services at first, not believing that there was abuse, that it was a threat to her child or herself, or that she needed any assistance in getting out of the situation. She lost custody of her child and was re-referred to the RISE Pattern Changing group for education and support. She attended and completed the group. Kim was initially resistant to even discussing domestic abuse in her life, but became a great asset and participant in the group, even offering assistance to other women about how to leave an abusive situation. In her survey at the close of group, Kim shared that she learned domestic violence is not just physical abuse and that she understood “how much it can affect my daughter now and in the future.” Her progress is evident in other parts of her life as well – she has worked to secure an Order of Protection against her ex-boyfriend and is now enjoying unsupervised visits with her daughter, certainly on the way to reuniting her family in a violence-free home.

Olivia and her two children are an example of a family that benefited from the services at RISE. Olivia came to the shelter with her two children after living through years of emotional abuse and physical threats. Like many clients, Olivia thought about leaving several times, but was afraid to disrupt the lives of her children and wasn’t sure what to expect staying in a domestic violence shelter. One night her partner threatened Olivia with a weapon and she made the brave decision that it was time to leave. She called the shelter's 24 hour hotline and spoke with a staff member about her situation, who made arrangements for Olivia and her children to be picked up at a safe location and transported to the shelter.

Olivia gathered her and her children's essential belongs and walked them to a nearby location where RISE staff could pick them up. Olivia’s children were scared and confused and Olivia wasn’t sure how to reassure them. Once the family arrived at the shelter they were given a tour and provided a room and personal items for their stay. As they settled in for the night Olivia wasn’t sure what her family was going to do next, but she was glad to be safe.

The next day Olivia met with a RISE advocate who gave her information about obtaining an order of protection from her abuser and how to obtain custody of her children. Olivia had never been to court and was overwhelmed by the process, but the advocate went to court with Olivia and explained what she needed to do. Olivia was grateful, but concerned about a long, ongoing court process. However, Olivia was surprised to learn that RISE advocates work with clients even after they leave the shelter. Olivia’s advocate accompanied her to all her court dates.